The first call went out to good 'ole Papa Don. My Dad is a rougher/tougher kind of guy, but has a big heart and loves his family...just doesn't like to let people know that he is kind of a softy deep down. Don't tell him I told you that. Dad could only give me 5 words, which was fine, considering that he told me that any other word would have just been a different way to say the same thing, which means I would have marked it off the list anyway. Dads were all related to life changing decisions that I have made or were trying to make. Unsure was one, along with Overwhelmed, which I feel fall in the same category. Both relating to school and making decisions about a career. In my short 2 years of school, I have changed my major 4 times, but I am pretty sure that I have it figured out now. Another was Cumpulsive, which makes perfect sence. I got a good job 9 months ago, which I have no longer, that payed very well so what did I do? Ran out and bought a car. I must say now...STUPID! I cant pay for it and have had 2 payments defered already, I should have just kept my gorgeous Durango and fixed it up a little and have no car payments. So Dad, I will give you that one...I let my inherited weakness take over and made a decision on impulse. Devoted was Dad's last word, and a word that I was not expecting from him at all. I knew that I had been doing it right if Dad had noticed it. My father and I have never been super tight, we have a good relationship...but have never seen eye to eye on everything and we both had to much pride to admit our faults along the way. So to hear that word out of his mouth, for him to know that I am a "give it all you got" guy made my day.
Next, I asked Benn Garrett. My homeboy for a long time now, but unfortunately we have gone our seperate ways in life with school, religion, family matters (its okay to laugh), just a little bit of everything. Benn was quick to reply, almost like he had been anticipating this question or something. I am only going to hit on a few of Benn's because they are the sole purpose for our great friendship. Aarogant and Rebellious. Now usually these two do not have anything to do with one another, but in this circumstance they do. When Benn said aarogant it hit me off gaurd, so I had to make him clarify a tad bit for me. Benn said that our aarogance wasn't the bad kind of aarogance. Our aarogance is what sets us apart from others who have grown up in some of the simular circumstances that we have. It is the reason why I think I can do that better than you, because you told me I wouldn't be able to. It was our reason for not excepting defeat, and striving to do and be better than what was. And to me, telling someone that they are Rebellious is just a nice way of saying that they are Aarogant. A Rebellious person is going to do it because you said not to, and prove you wrong if it takes every ounce of energy they have. If you lined up all of our friends and told people to pick out the common characteristics from each of us...those two words, along with Strong and Independent is what sets Benn and I apart.
Momma Beth recieved the next phone call, and had this to say. I was Tempromental, Picky(I used to smell everything I ate when I was a kid), and Good Hearted. All qualities for which I have to give credit to Dad. Like I said he is a softy(has a good heart), has a very bad temper(thanks alot Dad) and is picky, with food...Gosh NO. With bikes! Only Harley-Davidson, the right way in his opinion, and same with me and food. If I am going to do it, I am going to do it the right way, I dont want to put anything in my mouth that is going to ruin the night. The one that really stuck out to me in Beth's list was loner. All my life I had set myself apart from certain things, because I didn't feel like I could rely on them. I relied so much on myself to get things done, and almost refused help or even letting it be known that I needed help because of passed experiences. One thing that I have learned while growing up is that asking for help or needing help is okay. Relying on people to help is not, but being man enough to set pride aside to get the job done is a different story.
Sarah, my step-sister, just so happened to be visiting Beth when I was talking to her, so I let her go next. This one was kind of funny, because it was a typical "Big Sister, Danget Brother, Why are you asking me this" answer. Sarah said that I was a Tall, Engaged, Jerk Brother, who Loved, Well Educated and Adventureous, who just so happened to also be an Uncle. Thanks Sarah, couldn't have said it better.
I surprised my mom away from home, Marilyn Hoyt with a phone call and a question that stumped her. By this point I knew that I was doing something right, a lot of the list were looking the same and things didn't change with Marilyn. The two that Marilyn listed that caught my eye were Appreciative and Protective. Protective because I don't understand why she said it. Appreciative because I was glad she noticed it. Marilyn is Terry's mother, and we all know Terry. He, along with Benn and I, make up the 3 Musketeers. The other best friend. On more than one occasion, Terry and his family has opened their home for me to live at when my mom had to move away or things were rough at home or if I just needed somewhere to go for the night. To this day, I dont think I have ever told Marilyn and Marshall how much I love them and appreciate their direction, hospitality, comfort, love, and selflessness towards me. I will forever be in debt to that family, and I have absolutely no problem with this kind of debt. So to the Hoyt residence, if you ever decide to read this...I love you guys, and thank you so much for never second guessing being there when nobody else was.
Sissy, Heather, and my Madre were hanging out at the time of their text message. With them two, you never know what to expect...and sure enough they teamed up and sent me the most negative list that you could think of, as a joke. When they got serious with me though, surprisingly their lists were 100% different. Ofcourse they hit on the obvious ones like Handsome, Energetic, Smart, Funny...but they also said things like Patient, Good Listener, Encouraging, Spiritual, Sincere, and Honest. Once again, this was one of those moments where I was just glad that they saw that. My honesty has always been important, and sometimes the root of my "evil", or me being too honest. And then me being a Junior High Leader, especially for our group of kids, the rest of those qualities are musts in order to take our church to the next level. Thanks to everyone in my life, who has made it to where I have developed these things.
Last was my beautiful fiance, future Mrs. Napier. Bradonia Anne says that I am Restless, becasue I am never happy in one place for too long and I always want to take it that next level. Although I am Restless, she feels that I am Realistic. Now some people may feel different and that's okay, at times I am...at time I am not. Like Dad, she said that I was Devoted, but more than anything she said that I was a, in her words, "Get-R-Done" person. Let me remind folks, we are a Southern Couple so you will just have to deal with the word usage. I still haven't figured out if she likes that I am Get-R-Done person or not. With a wedding coming up, I am constantly on her case about getting things done...I think it gets on her nerves a little bit.
This was fun, and I got exactly what I was looking for. My strong points along with the points that need alittle work. You guys should try something like this...it really does help to get your ducks in a row, so to speak, and your front tire pointed down the right road. I know this one was a little longer than usual, but in the great words of Matt Markle...
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